It’s very common that family members spot the need for care while their loved one is adamant that no care is needed. It’s completely understandable that someone who has been fiercely independent for so long would be apprehensive about needing to rely on others for support.
This can make talking to your loved one about care a tricky conversation, and one that few of us are prepared for.
The Guide to Talking to a Loved One About Care will help you handle these conversations with empathy, compassion and with greater confidence.
You can also download a PDF copy of the guide here to share with others or keep it for reference.
Listen to them
It’s important to ensure your loved one feels included and not pressured into accepting care. Their perspective may differ from yours, and they might initially resist the idea due to fears of losing independence. This reaction is natural. Be patient, understanding, and empathetic. Discuss their concerns openly, as family support is crucial in helping them make a comfortable decision.
Take it one step at a time
Introduce the subject of care gradually, giving your loved one time to adjust and ask questions. This avoids overwhelming them with big, serious conversations and helps them focus on the benefits of care rather than their fears.
Offer reassurance
Change can be unsettling, and your loved one may fear losing independence. Reassure them they will remain in control and that a good care provider respects their wishes.
We’re always happy to meet potential clients for a friendly, no-obligation chat to discuss how our care service works and address any concerns.
Take generational differences into account
Understandably, elderly relatives value independence and may hide problems to avoid being a burden. Focus on what they can do with the right care, not what they can’t.
Hearing positive experiences from peers using care services can also help them form a more favourable opinion of accepting some support.
Start small
Home care can be completely flexible, providing as much or as little support as needed, and can complement care from family and friends. Suggest starting with visits once or twice a week so your loved one can see the benefits. The goal is to help them stay in their home and retain independence. Introduce care gradually, making it easier to add support if needed in the future.
Consider a set or trial period
Clients often need temporary support, such as after an operation or a fall. Emphasise that care isn’t necessarily indefinite, which can make it easier to accept. Suggest a specific period, like a few weeks, to focus on recovery. For potential long-term needs, propose a 2-3 month trial, reassuring them they can reassess with first-hand experience. We don’t tie them into any long-term contract, so they’re free to change their mind at any point.
Download a copy of the guide below. We’re also here to chat through your options, so feel free to give us a call, drop us an email, or book a callback, and we can help guide you through.
